youth ministry in decline?

August 12, 2010

usa today ran a piece on youth ministry yesterday, ominously titled ‘Forget pizza parties,’ teens tell churches. as i read it, i found myself intermittently nodding my head in agreement and being frustrated (and even angry) about the poor assumptions peppered throughout the article (both by those they quote, and by the article’s writer). there is some absurd jumps in logic, and some unfortunately finger-pointing at straw men.

here are the first couple paragraphs:

“Bye-bye church. We’re busy.” That’s the message teens are giving churches today.

Only about one in four teens now participate in church youth groups, considered the hallmark of involvement; numbers have been flat since 1999. Other measures of religiosity — prayer, Bible reading and going to church — lag as well, according to Barna Group, a Ventura, Calif., evangelical research company. This all has churches canceling their summer teen camps and youth pastors looking worriedly toward the fall, when school-year youth groups kick in.

the article goes on to blame parents (well, the executive pastor of a church, quoted in the article, blames parents), facebook (a quote from dave kinniman of barna research), “the overcommitted teens themselves” and the recession (a quote from a camp director), and wraps up with this one-off quote from an 18-year old (which is presented as if it’s a new thing, or an archetype):

Sam Atkeson of Falls Church, Va., left his Episcopal church youth group not long after leaving middle school. “I started to question if it was something I always wanted to do or if I just went because my friends did,” says Atkeson, now 18. “It just wasn’t really something I wanted to continue to do. My beliefs changed. I wouldn’t consider myself a Christian anymore.”

in fact, the only person in the article who seems to admits it might be our own fault (“our” meaning the church and those of us who lead youth ministries) is thom rainer from lifeway.

my second thought (the first being how the article names the problem but misses the point): why are we always so dang quick to point our fingers at everyone and everything else? when will we have the humility to point that accusing finger at ourselves?

i sure would have enjoyed seeing a quote from a youth pastor or church leader or ministry expert who said something like, “well, to be honest, we dropped the ball. it’s our fault. culture has changed, and teenagers have changed, and we’ve still been rolling along with our same ol’ lame pizza parties and camps, pretending it’s 1982. i hope this is a ‘better late than never’ situation where our desire to change and find new ways to engage today’s teenagers with the love of jesus will still find purchase. we’ve stumbled, but our calling is unshaken.”

that would have been cool.

yup, pizza parties probably aren’t gonna cut it anymore. maybe camps need to be heartily rethought through a painful process of death and rebirth. and, sure, there’s still going to be that post middle school teen who stops coming (geez, what’s new there?). maybe the youth pastor who’s building “the marine corps of christianity” is right (or maybe not).

but sumpin’s gotta change. and — all around me, in my interactions with youth workers, every day — i see it changing.

i have not lost hope.

(thanks to joel daniel harris for pointing out the article, via facebook)

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photo in need of a caption

August 11, 2010

ok, i’ve had two somewhat serious post this week so far; so let’s mix it up with a caption contest! yee-ha! this one is on its knees, just pleading and begging for all your funny and snarky caption ideas. i’ll list ‘contenders’ in the post later today, and pick a winner by the end of tomorrow (thurs).

CONTENDERS

Rob
Posted every year on Youth Sunday…

Patty J
St. Matthew the Apathetic launches its new membership campaign

Mandy
“Explanations are for when you get home and your wife has questions about the sermon. 1 Corinthians 14:33-35.”

Calvin
Like sex, movies, and Shakespeare, First Baptist realized too much talking can ruin the experience.

Andrew Seely
(not shown – sign below)
“please see note nailed to our front door”

Gman
Mark Riddle’s latest Book title.
note from marko: while very insider-ish, this one is drop-dead hilarious, and will be very hard to beat!

Aaron E Elmore
Let people figure out how to handle the snakes on their own…

Othy
The people of Explanatia were appalled at the church’s blatant discrimination.

and the winner is…
holy cow — i suck. between cramming to get stuff done before leaving town, then flying to north carolina, i spaced on picking a winner. contenders, please accept my apologies! were it not for calvin calling me out on a tweet, i may have forgotten about this for days more. and, for that, calvin gets 2nd place!

i thought gman’s comment was going to be impossible to beat; but othy’s late entry slipped past into first!

The people of Explanatia were appalled at the church’s blatant discrimination.

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thoughts from the bobsled

August 10, 2010

a couple weeks ago, while on vacation in park city, utah, my family spent the day at the olympic park. it’s the place where all the jumping events (the massive nordic jumps and the smaller flip-7-times-while-cooking-an-omelet kind), as well as the tracks for bobsled, luge and skeleton. these days, it’s both a working training center (we saw little kids on all the jumps, as part of classes — they have nifty ways to use the jumps in the summer), and a tourist attraction. jeannie and i had listened to (and said no to) a timeshare pitch in order to get 4 passes for the two ziplines and the alpine slide. good times.

all four of us in my family also had a certain amount of money to spend on our trip — on souvenirs or goodies or whatever.

i used my allotment to ride the bobsled.

the bobsled run at the utah olympic center is the 2nd fastest bobsled run in the world. and while it’s still used for real athletes, they also take silly tourists with money to blow on runs with a trained driver. it’s $200 in the winter; and in the summer, on a modified sled with wheels, it’s $60 (but i got a $10 discount, so it was $50). i was the last rider of the day, and went down the run with a driver and one other worker (because, they said, it was faster with at least three people). we clocked in at 69.4mph. the olympic athletes, on this course, go about 85 on ice.

it was one of the most intense minutes of my life. i didn’t breathe once.

but the extremely strange thing is that, somewhere about halfway down the run, while rounding a high banked turn and experiencing g-forces that left my stomach queezy for three hours afterward, i had a series of thoughts.

thought 1: this is FAST!

thought 2: that reminds me of that experience i had while driving a waverunner across a lake in texas back in 2006, when i sensed that god was saying something to be about ‘going fast’.

thought 3: this — my life — is so different now.

seriously, i thought that while rounding a turn on the bobsled run.

for so many years, my life was fast, fast, fast. i was afraid of it and proud of it. i nurtured it, pursued it, and knew i had to address it. i fondled my fastness while telling people how i was avoiding an affair with it. in some ways, i feel like i was a broken record, addressing the same thing over and over again, but not really changing anything.

i wrote a blog post about that experience on the lake, in 2006. it starts like this:

while zipping across lake conroe at 45mph, I was asking god what I should notice.

speed.

what about it?

you’re going fast.

crap. that’s too obvious. of course i’m going fast. i like fast.

some voice in me speaks, or god’s voice – i’m not sure (at first i dismiss it as a cliché voice – the ‘it’s obvious, stupid’ voice that only knows how to parrot what every other armchair psychologist or armchair god would say): you need to slow down.

i really did know this was a problem. and i really did know it could be my undoing. but it also made me feel important; and people affirmed me for it all the time. i even knew — ugh, this part is ugly — that talking about how i knew my speed was unhealthy, and taking seemingly aggressive steps to address it, made me look good. it was almost like that dream-within-a-dream-within-a-dream thing from the movie inception: i was revealing my issues (which were real), but using them to mask an even deeper sickness.

so back to the bobsled.

clearly, my life has changed a good deal in the last year. and merely looking at my travel schedule would not lead the casual observer to believe that i’ve slowed down in the least. i’ve still got my fingers in dozens of projects, and deadlines still press on me; and while i’d assumed i would lose my airlines status this year for lack of flights, that’s looking unlikely at this point.

but… i don’t feel like i’m going fast anymore. at least, i don’t feel like i’m addicted to it anymore, or that it’s part of my identity, or that i need it like i did. others have affirmed this, including my wife and kids.

here’s what i’m thinking: maybe the ‘too fast’ was never about my schedule, but was always more about my motivation.

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collaborative giving

August 9, 2010

i’m really excited about the potential of a small change-the-world collaborative effort my extended family is undertaking together. and i think it offers a raft of potential impacts and benefits that go far beyond an individual donation i would make.

here’s the backstory:

sometime last year, i heard about the (then) new book, half the sky: turning oppression into opportunity for women worldwide (i’d heard about it because my teenage friend and ys author, zach hunter, is profiled in the book). see my review of the book here. before i could read it, my wife swiped it, and suggested it for a reading group she’s part of with a couple of my aunts, my sister, and my cousin. it’s not a “christian” book, and the reading group has a couple christians in it, but also a few deeply wonderful people who are non-religious.

after reading the book, the group felt they needed some kind of collective response. so they formed “the full sky club”, a small, private response. they crafted an invitation to everyone in our extended family (there are families, including adult children and teenage grandchildren, from four sisters, my mom being one of them). they explained the need, and invited the clan into their collaborative giving project. then, once the money was pooled, they invested the funds on our behalf.

i received this email about the giving project:

Subject: The Full Sky Club donations

Thank you all for your generous donations to the Full Sky Club, supporting “turning oppression into opportunity for women worldwide”. We raised $954.00 which was donated as follows:

Microloan through Kiva.org to Margaret K. of Sierra Leone, for her used clothing business in the anount of $350, distributed through Association for Rural Development Sierra Leone.

Microloan through Kiva.org to Hin P. in Srae Vong Village, Cambodia, for her pig and chicken business in the amount of $100.00, distribuated through Angkow micro finance Kampuchea.

donation to Kiva.org for furthering the cause of microloans throughout the world in the amount of $56.79. (we had a credit of $2.79 from a previous loan the bookclub made and repayment by the borrower has been made in the amount of $2.79)

A donation to The Addis Ababa Fistula Hospital in Ethiopia in the amount of $450.00 through the Fistula Foundation. You can look up info about the Fistula foundation at fistulafoundation.org. They keep 20% to further the cause of fistula hospitals and surgeries free of charge, around the world. In 2009 they gave direct support to Hamlin Fistula Hospitals in Ethiopia in the amount of $1.083 million. Dr. Hamlin started the Addis Ababa Fistula Hospital .

Total of $956.79. We will periodically send you updates on the microloan repayments and reinvestments. Again, thank you so much for being a part of this- it’s very exciting to think we are in a small way helping women and children rise up from their oppression.

here’s what i’m thinking:

1. the amount isn’t huge, but that’s not really the point. certainly, the amount of the donation(s) is higher than any one of us would have likely given to any one of these causes. but even collectively, we wouldn’t qualify as a major donor. but there’s more to this than the size of the donation.

2. there’s a flywheel aspect to this — in fact, more than one flywheel. there’s a relational flywheel: this project is something we’re doing together, and it’s progress gives us reason to interact. there’s an awareness flywheel: the collaborative nature raises the water level of understanding for all of us who are involved. more people will be aware of the issues we’re giving to, and even those who pushed the flywheel to get it moving have a higher awareness than they would have if they’d merely made a donation on their own, since they’re reporting to the rest of us. and there’s an impact flywheel: this is partially true because the donations through kiva will be re-invested as they’re paid back. but since the whole effort is from ‘we’ rather than ‘me’, there’s a natural built-in impetus to take further steps, in donations or other forms of involvement.

3. everyone gets blessed. it’s a win on every front. this is always possible when giving, of course. but giving collaboratively increases both the quantity and quality of the blessing.

i think this is a model of giving that many of us should explore more, with our friendship groups, our families (extended or nuclear), our co-workers, our youth groups. what experiences have you had with this kind of thing?

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i’ve had this sitting in my drafts folder for a long time, so let’s push it out.

i kinda like geography. so i was fascinated by this u.s. map with the states redrawn so that every state has an equal population (of just over 5 1/2 million, btw). you can click on the map to get a slightly larger view. pretty creative, and interesting. as i stared at it, i found myself speculating on what the implications would be of a reality like this, where the playing field is leveled.

This map is the creation of Neil Freeman, who noted that the current 50 states have populations ranging from a half million to 33 million.

(ht to neatorama)

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our family vacation in park city, utah was wonderful. relaxing and lo-program, baby. lots of sleeping in, playing games, watching movies, hiking in the mountains, wandering the fun downtown area, and a bit of sightseeing. for me, the most fun day was the day we spent at the olympic center, were we rode crazy ziplines and an alpine slide, watched kids practice on the trick jumps (into a pool) and the nordic jumps, and were i rode the 2nd fastest bobsled track in the world (they have modified bobsleds, on wheels, driven by guys who know what they’re doing – it was one of the most intense minutes of my life).

here’s a sampling of my favorite pics:

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i’m so glad we stopped at bryce canyon (in utah) for a couple days on our way to park city. just amazing. one of the most unique landscapes i’ve ever seen. we drove around a bit and took short hikes to various view points. we had a nice picnic lunch. then we took a brutal (for us, since we’re out of shape and it was at high altitude!) hike down into the canyon and — puff, puff — back up.

here are 7 of my favorite pics:

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pansy kidd middle school

August 2, 2010

seriously, it’s real. pansy kidd middle school, in poteau, oklahoma.
there’s even a wikipedia article that mentions how they’ve “gone viral” with the pic posted on the fail blog (which just happened in the last few days).

here’s the pic from fail blog:

questions this brings to mind:

1. what do the 6th – 8th grade guys who attend there think of the name of their school? do ANY of them think it’s funny, or are they all in horror?
2. has anyone ever seriously considered changing the name?
3. are there any remaining school board members from when the school’s name was originally approved? if so, they should be kicked off, immediately.
4. is anyone else seriously tempted to order a t-shirt or sweatshirt?
5. the school mascot is the “raiders”. compensating for something?
6. wouldn’t one of my readers has to have a better suggestion for a mascot than “raiders”?

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did you see this story last week?

i saw this pic on the fail blog and figured it must be fake or photoshopped:

but, apparently it’s real! following several clicks, i found this article from the telegraph (u.k.) that gives the story, including this quote from a woman on the sailboat:

“It really was quite incredible but very scary. The whale was about the same size as the boat.

We’d spotted it about 100 metres away and thought that was the end of it. Then suddenly it was right up beside us.

I assumed it would go underneath the boat but instead it sprang out of the sea. We were very lucky to get through it, as the sheer weight of the thing was huge. There were bits of skin and blubber left behind, and the mast was wrecked. It brought down the rigging too.

Thank goodness the hull was made of steel and not fibreglass or we could have been ruined.”

cnn even has a little video reporting the story.

crazy. real whales leaping = 1; photoshopped whales leaping = 0.

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got an email from my friend andy root, asking if i would consider posting this offer from him. and, heck, i’ll not just post it because i like andy and think he’s one of the truly brilliant youth ministry researchers/thinkers/authors out there, whose books are significant contributions to our thinking and calling. i’ll post it because it’s a free book offer!

andy sez…

Hello Youth Ministry friends, I’m sorry to interrupt your regularly scheduled blog reading, but I have broken transmission to offer you an opportunity.

I wanted to get before you the chance to get a free copy of my book Relationships Unfiltered. As the new school year approaches and you think about volunteer leader meetings and trainings I would like to suggest you take a look at Relationships Unfiltered. It’s written just for this setting with discussion questions and chapters filled with illustrations and stories–but also promises to get you and your team thinking theologically about your core practice this coming school year: forming relationships with young people.

Here’s what I can do: If you’ll email me (aroot@luthersem.edu) I’ll send you a free copy of the book so you can look it over and decide if it would be of help to you and your volunteers. If you’re interested in using it you can then go here or here and type in the code 980752 in the “source code” box. Starting August 1 this will give you a 40% discount on as many books as you’d like.

And I’ll also offer this, if you do use the book with your team, I’m willing to do a select number of skype or ichat conversations with you and your team after getting through the book.

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