last week at my new youth ministry coaching program group in nashville, during a conversation about seniors in their second semester fading away from what was previously a high commitment to the youth ministry, one of the guys (brad fiscus, the director of youth ministries for the tennessee conference of the united methodist church) suggested a very intriguing idea.
we all know that senior are super busy. we all know they have extra pressures. and we all know they’re distracted.
but brad posed this fantastic question:
Could the drop off of seniors be a factor of them distancing themselves in preparation for the forced separation of graduating out of our groups?
that sure reframes things. i mean, think of it this way: “lame ducks” almost always fade. heck, the vast majority of youth workers i know who are moving to another church, have a hard time maintaining passion and energy in their current role, even if they still genuinely care for the church and students.
if we think of seniors in this light, i wonder if it would give us more compassion for them, rather than the guilting and cajoling i hear from so many youth workers. instead of “how can i get you to come to youth group?” our question becomes, “how can i serve you in this transition?”